How to Orgasm during Intercourse
Many magazine and books are devoted to the subject, “How to Reach Orgasm.” Whether you are looking for information about how to orgasm or you are looking for a specific method that teaches you how to orgasm, remember the learning how to orgasm is not a one-time experience. Here are some positions and techniques that may help you learn how to reach orgasm.
The missionary position with a full pelvic tilt
This position enables the penis to reach the G-spot, the part of the clitoris that extends into the vaginal wall. Lie on your back, beneath your partner, and tilt your pelvis upwards. It helps to put one or more pillows beneath your buttocks, or have your partner raise up your buttocks with his hands.
The woman on top
This allows the woman to adjust the position of her pelvis so she can better control the friction of the penis as it rubs against her clitoris. This position also allows deep thrusting into the vagina, which can stimulate the cervix and trigger an orgasm. The technique can be carried out with your partner lying down on his back or sitting.
Strengthen the grip
During intercourse, many women flex their pelvic floor muscles to give both partners greater pleasure. The stronger the muscles, the better you can contract your vagina and create greater friction against your partner's penis, leading to more clitoral stimulation. Try squeezing down throughout intercourse.
Keeping your legs together
This can create friction from the penis and lead to a clitoral orgasm. When your partner inserts his penis into your vagina, squeeze your legs closed and have him place his legs outside yours. Your partner can then squeeze your legs further closed with his thighs. It may help if he can shift his pelvis forward to cause pressure and friction on your clitoris.
Stimulate the cervix
While many women don't enjoy penile thrusting against their cervix, others find it's the key to orgasm. To determine whether this technique works for you, find a position that allows for deep penetration of the penis. You might try lying on your back, hugging your knees to your chest or resting your legs on your partner's shoulders. Or, have your partner enter from behind while you rest on your knees and lean forward on your elbows. For maximum cervical stimulation, straddle your partner, facing his feet (be careful, though. This position can cause a penile fracture).
Make you next orgasm the biggest, best ever
If you're a woman in search of an out-of-this-world orgasm, try some techniques that sexperts swear by. If you are a man, orgasms are usually "a given" with direct stimulation of your penis, but a man's orgasm can also reach new heights.
Tri-gasm: Three time the excitement
Two genital points of pleasure are commonly the centre of a woman's orgasm: the clitoris, a sensitive, pea-sized part of a woman's genitals located in front of the vagina's opening before the lips join together; and the G spot, a small, spongy pad of tissue about two inches into the vagina, on the side facing the stomach.
Tell your partner where you prefer the focus, sex experts recommend, and whether you favour a lighter or firmer touch with a finger, tongue or sex toy. Then, take a chance at tripling your sexual pleasure — let your mate in on the tri-gasm technique.
A tri-gasm, also known as the, ultimate orgasm, results from simultaneous arousal of the clitoris, G spot and anus. Experiment with various ways your partner can stimulate the three spots at the same time, using different combinations of his tongue, forefingers and penis (a vibrator can also play a part) to accomplish the triple touch. You can even achieve three times the stimulation by yourself, using your imagination and letting your fingers, maybe helped by a vibrator, do the feeling.
Two out of three is not bad in bed
If tri-gasm seems like too much of a good thing, pick any two of the three points and be happy with a bi-gasm, (or the tried-and-true uni-gasm, with a single point peaked).
Bi-gasm best-bet is a technique called the Venus Butterfly. It's an age-old favourite, first practiced in India around 3000 B.C., that employs simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and the G spot, which can result in an explosive orgasm.
How a Man can be a Sexual Hero
Don't count on sexual intercourse itself to give a woman a top-flight orgasm — only 30 percent of women reach climax during intercourse. The missionary position (man on top), in particular, tends to provide insufficient stimulation of the clitoris. So try to mix up positions and see which ones both partners can enjoy.
And no matter what position you choose, or how many erogenous zones you set your sights on, don't forget the foreplay. A woman almost always needs a build up to make her orgasm a blockbuster. That is why, a hero in bed, is a man with a slow hand.
Men can have Multiple Orgasms, too!
Come again? It's true — men, like women, can become multi-orgasmic. The secret, sexologists say, is to improve your command of the PC muscle, which controls ejaculation, as well as the flow of urine.
You can strengthen the large pelvic muscle by repeatedly flexing and holding it, as if you're stopping the urine flow; in time, you will be able to tighten the muscle when you are about to ejaculate — that will stop the ejaculation, but not the orgasm. In the same session, you can have another orgasm, ejaculation and all.
Now you can wait to ejaculate…long enough to please your mate. |
